Masterful Mindsets ~ You Are Human
“You’re only human. You don’t have to have it together every minute of every day.” ~ Anne Hathaway
Have you ever made a mistake and then felt like a horrible person? Have you ever made a decision and then felt like a bad person for honoring yourself instead of another? Have you ever felt like you’d failed because you didn’t show up as your best self in a situation?
Have you ever asked the question, “Am I a bad person?” Or perhaps you could replace the word “person” with something more specific like – mom, dad, friend, wife, husband, boss, employee, entrepreneur, girlfriend, boyfriend, etc. If so, this week’s article is for you so keep reading…
Last week I had more than one person ask me if I thought they were a bad person. One used “friend” the other, “mom”. And it made me sad to think that either of these people would be so down on themselves that they thought they were bad. The truth is, they were being human. For one woman, she was not at the top of her game. A sick child, travel and a small amount of sleep made for a very difficult time. For the other, she was struggling with keeping her boundaries strong, not getting into drama and instead, encouraging another friend not to be a victim. Every been there? Telling a friend what they need to hear rather then what they want to hear… How is that being a bad friend? To me, it’s not. But then again, people hire me to be their coach, not their friend. And I do know that sometimes it’s hard to separate, so my friends often get the “coach” in me to respond whether they like it or not. But the way I see it, I’m being authentic and real so what better characteristic in a friend than that?
Anyway, here’s what I told each of them…
- You are human. You will make mistakes. You will not always be at the top of your game. You will need to ask for help at times. That doesn’t make you weak, bad or a failure; it makes you real.
- As long as the decisions you are making are with the intention of being for your greater good and the good of those around you, you can never go wrong. It doesn’t mean your decisions will always be right. But if you have the right intentions, then you can hold your head high.
- It’s about integrity. It’s about being authentic and real. It’s about showing up each and every day as the best version of you that you can be. And it’s about knowing that being your best doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. It just means you strive to be your best true you. And if you falter, get back up and strive again.
That’s it! As long as you feel in your heart that your intentions are good, you are doing the best you can, and when you know you need help, be strong enough to ask for it – then you’ll never have to ask if you’re a bad person. You’ll know without a doubt that you are a magnificent being having a very human experience.
My challenge to you is to be the magnificent human being you were born to be! Follow the guidelines above as often as you can. Especially when you find yourself in situations where you aren’t feeling that you are at the top of your game. Breathe, you’re going to be okay! You are human and you are a great person!
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