Masterful Mindsets – What will define your character?

“Our character isn’t defined by the battles we win or lose, but by the battles we dare to fight.”  ~ Robert Beatty, Serafina and the Black Cloak


What battles are you fighting in your life right now? Are you still fighting old battles from the past? Fighting with others? Or fighting an internal battle? How are the battles you’re fighting in your life defining your character?

Action Challenge:

This week’s quote comes from a book my youngest daughter read earlier this summer. I love the fact that she gave it to me and suggested I use it for one of my Masterful Mindsets. Even at the age of only ten, she saw the importance and the power in its message.

We all have battles we fight in our lives. Some are external – with other people. For example, a power struggle at work or a court battle with a spouse, over a divorce. (Even in youth, it may be a fight between siblings on who’s turn it is to wash the dishes.)

Some battles are not of our choosing – the battle for your life when facing a life threatening disease like cancer or maybe having to battle back from an injury, after having an accident. Sure we can choose whether or not to fight them. But we don’t necessarily choose them to be in our lives.

And then of course, there are the internal battles we fight. The battles with our ego and our self limiting beliefs over whether we are good enough to reach our goals. Or the battles we fight every time fear rears its head when we are pushed out of our comfort zone. Most of us fight internal battles a whole lot more than external. In addition, deep within every external battle, there is almost always an internal battle.

We can’t always control the outcome of external battles but we can control the outcome of the internal battles we fight. And it is these battles that we must dare to fight most. These are the battles that define our character. And it is in fighting these battles that we can overcome all things. In fighting our internal battles with limiting beliefs and fears, we can fight the battles that are not of our choosing, with courage, strength and hope. Or even better yet, realize that we often don’t need to fight the external battles at all but rather that we can put our ego aside and show up with love and peace.

My challenge to you is to make a decision today that you will not let the outcome of the external battles you are fighting in your life define you. They may be battles from your past, present or even those you are fearing in your future. Release any hold their outcome may have on you and instead dig deeper and see what you are really fighting internally. How will you let your internal battle define your character? Be strong, be courageous, be loving, have hope and above all, whatever your battle is… be positive, have faith and believe in yourself.

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