Masterful Mindsets

“Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

Have you ever made an assumption about someone or a situation, only to find out later that you were completely wrong?

If so, you're in good company.

Most of us have done it.

We've assumed someone was upset with us when they weren't. We've assumed someone knew what we wanted when we never actually told them. We've assumed we understood a situation, only to discover later that we were missing important information.

And more often than not, those assumptions create exactly what Don Miguel Ruiz warns us about: unnecessary misunderstanding, disappointment, and drama.

That's why the third agreement from The Four Agreements is so powerful:

Don't Make Assumptions.

Simple advice, right?

Yet it's amazing how often we ignore it.

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“Even the darkest night will end, and the sun will rise.” — Victor Hugo

Over the past few years, the world has carried more uncertainty, fear, and heaviness than many of us ever imagined. But here’s the thing, I didn’t create this Worry Lies series just because of current events.

I created it because worry has always been there, lurking in the background, ready to pounce the moment we face something uncomfortable or unknown.

We may never be completely free of worry, but we can learn to stop believing its lies.

The Three Lies Worry Tells Us:
1.) The worst is going to happen.
2.) You can’t handle it.
3.) This will last forever.

If you missed the first two parts of this series, you can read Part 1 here and Part 2 here.

Today, we’re tackling the final lie, the one that makes your heart heavy and your hope fade:

“This will last forever.”

The Lie: This Will Last Forever
This lie roots itself in fear — the fear of loss.
Loss of time.
Loss of love.
Loss of money, freedom, or happiness.

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“You don’t have to be a “person of influence” to be influential. In fact, the most influential people in my life are probably not even aware of the things they’ve taught me.” ~ Scott Adams

If you were to think about the people who have been role models to you in your life, I would be willing to bet that the majority of them never really knew they were your role model. So now ponder that for a minute… How many people then, have you likely been a role model to that you have no idea you’ve influenced? Kind of gives you chills, right? I mean, think about how you show up every single day of your life. What are you modeling to others? What energy are you giving out that others are absorbing? What habits or behaviors do you model that someone else is likely learning from you? What mindset or beliefs is someone picking up from you that are becoming their own? And maybe the most important question… Is the model you are being worth modeling?

You might think that no one is watching but I ca...

“Don’t adapt to the energy in the room. Influence the energy in the room.”

During difficult or uncertain times, we not only have an opportunity to lead others, but for many, it is our duty to do it. Especially for those who know they have people who look to them for guidance. So how do you really influence people? That’s the topic of this post, as we dive deeper into our series on influence. But first, think about someone in your life that has been highly influential to you. It could be someone in your personal life or your professional life, someone from your past or someone recent. How did they demonstrate influence?

Was the first person that came to mind someone that influenced you in a positive or negative way? Examine that for yourself for a little while. It might have a big impact on how you perceive influence. If the experience was negative, you could see influence as a negative thing. (And it can be for some.) Which might make you shy away from being influential with othe...