Masterful Mindsets

“Even the darkest night will end, and the sun will rise.” — Victor Hugo

Over the past few years, the world has carried more uncertainty, fear, and heaviness than many of us ever imagined. But here’s the thing, I didn’t create this Worry Lies series just because of current events.

I created it because worry has always been there, lurking in the background, ready to pounce the moment we face something uncomfortable or unknown.

We may never be completely free of worry, but we can learn to stop believing its lies.

The Three Lies Worry Tells Us:
1.) The worst is going to happen.
2.) You can’t handle it.
3.) This will last forever.

If you missed the first two parts of this series, you can read Part 1 here and Part 2 here.

Today, we’re tackling the final lie, the one that makes your heart heavy and your hope fade:

“This will last forever.”

The Lie: This Will Last Forever
This lie roots itself in fear — the fear of loss.
Loss of time.
Loss of love.
Loss of money, freedom, or happiness.

When ...

“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head—beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” — Anthony de Mello

I once heard someone say that worry tells lies. And I’ve found that to be completely true, both in my own life and in the lives of my clients.

Worry has a sneaky way of whispering the same false stories over and over again, especially when we’re stepping into something new or uncertain.

In fact, worry tends to tell three big lies:
1.) The worst is going to happen.
2.) You can’t handle it.
3.) This will last forever.
If you listen closely to your inner chatter, I bet most of your worries boil down to one (or all) of these three. And when they take over, they bring fear, anxiety, and stress right along with them.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be breaking down each lie and giving you tools to replace them with truth, courage, and confidence.

Let’s start with the first one: “The worst is going to happen.”

“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and the thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” — Unknown

You’ve probably heard the saying that you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

It’s true - the people around you influence your energy, your mindset, and even your vision of what’s possible.

So take a moment to think about who those five people are for you. Are they encouragers who lift you up and inspire you to grow? Or are they energy-drainers who leave you feeling small, doubtful, or depleted?

Energy Is Contagious — Choose Wisely
Sometimes, you don’t have a choice. You might work with negative people or have family members whose constant criticism feels like a slow leak in your energy tank.

Their negativity can spread like gangrene — creeping quietly until it numbs your hope and ambition.

But here’s what you do have control over:
You get to decide...

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” — Lucille Ball

Most of the people I work with are heart-centered, service-driven, high performers, and also incredibly hard on themselves. They show up for everyone else with love, compassion, and generosity, yet they rarely give that same level of care to themselves.

Sound familiar?

It’s a quiet pattern that can keep even the most successful person stuck because no matter how much love you pour out, you can only give from what’s within.

The Truth About Self-Love
If you want to be your best and give the best of yourself to others, you must start by having a loving relationship with yourself.

As the saying goes: “If you want to say ‘I love you,’ you must start with ‘I.’”

Without that foundation, you’ll always hit a ceiling. Every time you reach for a new level of growth - fear and doubt will try to pull you back. And when that happens, if your inner voice ...