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Love Your Family = Change The World
âIf you want to change the world, go home and love your family.â ~ Mother TeresaÂ
In the last several months, Iâve repeatedly spoken with others who are feeling a great need to do something to heal the current state of our world. Which is why Iâve been writing about this topic all month. And while I agree, our world is in dire need of healing, I also think that we can get so focused on whatâs happening outside that we forget to look inside â inside ourselves and our own homes.
Donât get me wrong, I do think it is important to do our best to be active parts of our community and support others with love and compassion, but sometimes we need to begin in our own space. Which is why when I saw todayâs quote, it actually lit me up because itâs something Iâve been talking to several of my clients about. As a matter of fact, I recently told a group of women that I was working with, âIf you want to change the world, start with your family. You might not be able to change the whole world a...
Journey of Love
"Your life is a journey of learning to love yourself first and then extending that love to others in every encounter." Â ~Oprah
Last week I challenged you to double down on your goodness to others. Because quite honestly, our world needs to reconnect and embrace loving kindness as a consistent practice in order to begin to heal. But if you donât love yourself or your life, it can be difficult to extend love to others. Think about it, those people in the world that are so hateful and mean⌠do you think they actually love themselves or their life? Iâm guessing, no. Â
Loving yourself plays an important part in how you show up in the world. Once you love and respect yourself, you can give to others from a heart full of love, respect, generosity and kindness. But if you don't have enough love for yourself or your life, then a couple things can happen.
Either you find you give what little you do have to others with no regard for yourself. This is what I call "sacrificing yourself for t...
Double Down On Your Goodness
âRemember thereâs no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.â ~Scott Adams
Every year, for every holiday, birthday and special occasion, my mother-in-law sends us a care package. This Valentineâs Day is no different. Over the weekend I opened my mailbox to find a cute little package addressed to my family, full of cards and chocolates in honor of the upcoming holiday. It almost made me cry because I thought of the effort it must have required of her- to get to the store and then the post office, to ensure that we got this special package on time. (Some days I donât even make it to my mailbox to mail a bill! Let alone do all she did.) She is willing to make that extra effort to show her love. And this is just one example of the little things she does all the time. So why am I telling you this (outside of the fact that I want you to know what a wonderful mother-in-law I have)? đ
Because I want to challenge you⌠In a world that can be s...
Don't Just Make The List - Live By It!
âWords are just words until you put them into action. Then they can become the character traits that you live by.â ~ Michelle Weimer
Todayâs Masterful Mindset is the last in our mini series on Character. I hope that youâve gotten some clarity about the character traits you most wish to possess.
If youâve been following along the last few weeks, then by now you should have a great list started. But itâs not just about making a list of words, itâs about living by those words.
So, if you donât already have a plan in place for how you will practice those character traits regularly, in order to begin to make them a powerful part of who you are and how you will show up in the world, youâre in luck today.
To end this series, I want to give you a practice that will help you keep those character traits front and center in your mind, which in turn will help you begin to look for opportunities to exhibit them more regularly. (Plus I'm going to give you free access to the app I use for t
...The Gift: Freedom to be Yourself
âThe freedom to be yourself is a gift only you can give yourself. But once you do, no one can take it away.â â Doe Zantamata
Yesterday was the 4th of July, where here in the USA, itâs a time to celebrate our freedom. But for many people, they feel most captive, within. They donât feel they have the freedom to be themselves. So instead of boldly owning who they are and proudly sharing their creative expression of self, they pretend to be someone they are not. Or they hide in the shadows - never bringing their gifts and talents to light. (Maybe you can relate.)
Think about this for a minute⌠How free are you to be yourself, your true self? In everything you do and all your interactions with others, are you expressing yourself freely? If not, why?
Itâs easy to blame others for your lack of freedom and I get it, societal norms can be a real bitch to break free from! But perhaps you hold yourself back more than anyone. Maybe itâs because you donât believe you are enough or you don
...To Persist or to Persevere, that is the QuestionâŚ
"Definition of Insanity - Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." ~ Albert Einstein
The action of being persistent can often mean you are doing the same thing over and over. Sometimes that can be good but sometimes, not so much. Take for example the analogy IÂ love to give my clients: If you keep putting the same ingredients in your cake, you will keep getting the same cake. If you want a different cake, you have to put in different ingredients. When being persistent with something, it's important to know when enough is enough and you need to try something new to reach your goal. Especially when that cake you're making is really not the cake you want to be eating at all! đ
The illusion that the ability to persist is always a virtue has caused people to stay in toxic relationships with people they donât respect, put up with jobs they hate, and generally just continue to perform the same painful action over and over again, in hopes that it will
...How Do You Show Up In The Face Of Adversity?
"Strength of character isnât always about how much you can handle before you break, itâs also about how much you can handle after youâve broken." â unknown
How do you show up in the face of adversity? Last week I had a conversation with a woman about her life and it shocked me. Her story of struggle was hard to imagine. Sheâs been through so much in her life and yet sheâs warm, loving and kind. Sheâs resilient, faith-filled and strong. Even in spite of all that sheâs going through. I would have never imagined she was in the middle of a lifelong storm.
The truth is, itâs easy to show positive character traits when everything is going good in your life but sometimes the best way to truly know a person is to see how they show up in the face of adversity.
Which is why I want to take our conversation from last week (about how easy it is to assess someoneâs character traits by observing their actions) a step farther and add that how someone shows up in the face of adversity really s
...Are Your Actions Congruent with Your Character?
"The truth of your character is expressed through the choice of your actions." ~ Steve Maraboli
Fatherâs Day is coming up so of course, it always makes me think about my dad. He passed away a few years ago and I miss him dearly. He was a man of great character and his actions always reflected that character. He had integrity. He was honest, hardworking, fair, reliable, responsible, loved his family deeply and he always showed resilience, perseverance and humility in the face of adversity.
Thinking about him, inspired me to share a new Masterful Mindset Series with you on Character. So for the next few weeks, please come along with me and invite others to join us, as we will be focusing on character. Because truly, I think we can all use a little tune-up in this area from time to time.
Character Traits are all the aspects of a person's behavior and attitudes that make up that person's personality. (Think âdescriptive adjectivesâ here.) Everyone has character traits, both good and...
Role Model the Way For Others
âYou donât have to be a âperson of influenceâ to be influential. In fact, the most influential people in my life are probably not even aware of the things theyâve taught me.â ~ Scott Adams
If you were to think about the people who have been role models to you in your life, I would be willing to bet that the majority of them never really knew they were your role model. So now ponder that for a minute⌠How many people then, have you likely been a role model to that you have no idea youâve influenced? Kind of gives you chills, right? I mean, think about how you show up every single day of your life. What are you modeling to others? What energy are you giving out that others are absorbing? What habits or behaviors do you model that someone else is likely learning from you? What mindset or beliefs is someone picking up from you that are becoming their own? And maybe the most important question⌠Is the model you are being worth modeling?
You might think that no one is watching but I ca...
Challenge and Inspire Others
âInfluence is not about elevating yourself, but about lifting others.â ~ Sheri DewÂ
Last week I asked you to think about a person in your life that was highly influential to you. Maybe that person was a role model that you followed and looked up to. Someone who led you to the beliefs that you now live by. Maybe they taught you to think about things in new and different ways. Or maybe they were someone who was always challenging you to step up and be your best! Inspiring you to dream bigger and encouraging you to go after those dreams!
It is my hope that you were able to think of more than one person who has been highly influential in your life. I know that I have more than one. Some filling different roles and some coming at different times in my life. And while I am thankful for all of them, I am particularly thankful for the ones who inspire and challenge me! I would not be near the person I am today, if it werenât for the people who have challenged me to be my best and inspire...
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