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Character In Difficulty
"When life seems hard, the courageous do not lie down and accept defeat; instead, they are all the more determined to struggle for a better future." Â ~Queen Elizabeth IIÂ
A lot can be learned about a person's character if you observe them during difficult times. They will show you their victim side or their victor side. They will show you their pessimism or their optimism. Their kindness or their bitterness... And as the quote says, those who are courageous will show that they are strong and courageous, in their actions and determination. While all too often, those who are afraid of difficulty or failure will never take the risk to move forward.Â
Now that doesn't mean that those who are strong and courageous never fail. Quite the contrary - what it means is that they aren't afraid of failure because they don't see it as defeat. They see it as an opportunity to learn and try again. And most importantly, they know that their failures do not define them but rather, it's how they sh...
Scars On My Soul
"Iâm proud of the scars in my soul. They remind me that I have an intense life." â Paulo Coelho
Have you allowed the scars of your past to haunt you and hold you back from living full out in your life? Or do you see the beauty and strength that can be found in those scars as reminders of an intense life?
Last Monday was Memorial Day here in the US. It is traditionally a time to honor those whoâve lost their lives while serving our country in the military. But itâs also become a time when we honor all who have passed on before us. For me that brings to mind one of the biggest scars in my soul.
Iâve been through some things in life that most would see as difficult and heartbreaking experiences. Of course, nothing as tragic or horrific as what those who serve in the military might experience or that someone who has grown up in an abusive home might know. But none the less, losing my mother at age seven and then later in life, spending eight years struggling with infertility are amo...
Strength In Overcoming
"Strength doesnât come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldnât." ~ Rikki Rogers
Weâve all experienced events in our lives when we just didnât think we would possibly have the strength to get through, and yet we did. I look back on the eight years my husband and I dealt with infertility and I can remember many times thinking I didnât have the strength to endure another unsuccessful treatment or heartbreaking negative pregnancy test. Yet, month after month and year after year, we found the strength to keep trying. And now here we are, twenty-one years later, having just celebrated our oldest daughter's birthday and preparing to send our youngest daughter off to college in the fall. (Funny how all those years went a lot faster than the other 8!)
Anyway, if you really think about it...
You can probably recall times when youâve overcome an obstacle or reached a goal you werenât sure you could actually achieve. Strength comes from those ...
To Persist or to Persevere, that is the QuestionâŚ
"Definition of Insanity - Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." ~ Albert Einstein
The action of being persistent can often mean you are doing the same thing over and over. Sometimes that can be good but sometimes, not so much. Take for example the analogy IÂ love to give my clients: If you keep putting the same ingredients in your cake, you will keep getting the same cake. If you want a different cake, you have to put in different ingredients. When being persistent with something, it's important to know when enough is enough and you need to try something new to reach your goal. Especially when that cake you're making is really not the cake you want to be eating at all! đ
The illusion that the ability to persist is always a virtue has caused people to stay in toxic relationships with people they donât respect, put up with jobs they hate, and generally just continue to perform the same painful action over and over again, in hopes that it will
...How Do You Show Up In The Face Of Adversity?
"Strength of character isnât always about how much you can handle before you break, itâs also about how much you can handle after youâve broken." â unknown
How do you show up in the face of adversity? Last week I had a conversation with a woman about her life and it shocked me. Her story of struggle was hard to imagine. Sheâs been through so much in her life and yet sheâs warm, loving and kind. Sheâs resilient, faith-filled and strong. Even in spite of all that sheâs going through. I would have never imagined she was in the middle of a lifelong storm.
The truth is, itâs easy to show positive character traits when everything is going good in your life but sometimes the best way to truly know a person is to see how they show up in the face of adversity.
Which is why I want to take our conversation from last week (about how easy it is to assess someoneâs character traits by observing their actions) a step farther and add that how someone shows up in the face of adversity really s
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